GRIEF OF FAMILIES LEFT BEHIND BY FAMILY MEMBERS DUE TO COVIDE-19 IN SEMARANG

: Background: Grieving is a response that arises as a result of an individual experiencing one of which is loss. Not only the grieving phase which includes denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance which describes the condition of grieving but there is also a grieving response which includes cognitive, emotional, behavioral and physiological responses where these responses can be different in each individual, because humans are unique creatures, researchers use observational interview techniques in conducting this study, to find out the grieving response to one person and another. Objective: This study aims to determine the picture of grieving family members left behind by their families due to COVID-19 in Semarang Regency. Method: Qualitative descriptive research design with data analysis using Collaizi method. Results: the description of the participants' grieving response showed the results of cognitive responses including denial and acceptance, emotional: depression, anger, gaining, acceptance . Behavioral : depression, then on physiological responses: depression, gaining, acceptance. Conclusion: the grieving phase was irregular, but all four participants had similar cognitive, emotional, behavioral, physiological responses.


INTRODUCTION
Mourning the death of a family member due to Covid-19 is experienced by many families.
Grieving, is a response that arises due to an individual experiencing a loss.
This response can take various forms of negative feelings such as sadness, anger, or loneliness (Hasan, Dwiartyani, &;Arief, 2021;Solehudin, Herliana, Koto, &;Marisca, 2022).Due   These responses may include pleasure, Social Distancing, which caused families who were not exposed to Covid-19 to be unable to care for family members who were exposed to Covid-19 freely, so they did not have time to accompany exposed members at the end of their lives.Additional stressors can also arise when families are unable to carry out death rituals and social support due to social distancing, resulting in severe grief reactions in those who experience grief due to Covid-19 (Eisma et al., 2020; Kokou-Kpolou et al.who had lost family members to Covid-19, then one of the friends answered with tears telling about the death of his mother three months ago and unlike the usual situation where people can perform rituals as farewell because this pandemic causes isolation in humans.This is the background for researchers to examine the experience of grieving family members so that researchers and readers know the picture of grieving family members who have been left by families due to COVID-19.METHOD This study included qualitative descriptive Janis.Descriptive research describes "what is" about a subject in a social setting.Descriptive research is research conducted on social settings and independent subjects, that is, without making comparisons or connecting with different social settings and subjects.Descriptive research still departs from deep interpretation and through a logical line of thinking.This study aims to describe the grieving response of family members left behind by their families due to COVID-19.With the number of participants 4 family members left behind by their families and will change over time.This is in line with Purwanti's research at all 2010, regarding the cognitive response of grieving which says that someone who experiences grieving will result in decreased concentration.Someone experiencing grief or grief will think "this can't happen".This rejection reaction is a normal reaction for many people who are overwhelmed with emotion.Denial or denial, people who are at this stage cannot believe the events that occur.This stage is a temporary response that brings a person to the first wave of pain.The first reaction is shock, disbelief or denial of reality.time of grieving including feelings of sadness, loss, guilt, fear, anger and also illustrated from crying and sad expressions when answering questions from researchers.This is in line with previous research on the emotional grieving response felt by early adolescents due to parental divorce which said the responses shown were sad, angry, loss, pain, fear, and confusion.The primary assessment of emotional responses is nonspecific and generalized anxiety reactions, which are then expressed as emotions. , hope, and wonder(Stuart & Laraia, 2005).Feelings of anger, sadness and anxiety are the dominant emotional experiences of loss.Anger and hatred can be shown to anyone around.A person with pain is prone to being triggered by emotions to vent his pain with anger.(Kublerr:7-27) Emotional feelings will also cause feelings of longing and search, when reality begins to appear, individuals will show great suffering and cry, then at different times each individual will have a strong desire to recover even though he is still down.The patterns of thoughts, feelings and actions associated with life with the deceased need to change.When all hope of the deceased's return has been lost, the individual inevitably experiences a time of depression, working to divert their grief.This is not so in line with previous research because Helwiyah at all's study of behavioral responses in bereaved individuals only described

RESULT AND DISCUSSION RESULT The cognitive response is seen from the way participants think at the time of grieving
733| Grief Of Families Left Behind By Family Members Due To Covide-19 In Semarang allowed to check it during the funeral, so look from afar" (P2.,A.29.P) "Repeatedly, he said that the father is dead.I immediately ran to my husband and didn't wake up" (P3,I.36.P) "It wasn't long before I thought I had to be strong for the sake of the MBA kids."(P3.I36.P) Emotional

response is seen from the way participants vent their feelings through attitudes, words or actions when grieving
Ahmad Riyadi 2 Umi Margi Rahayu 3 Annisa Muliani Tangdilintin Family members left behind have a very close relationship, which Sri Endang Windiarti 1 anger.Participants also quickly tried to recover themselves by realizing that this was all fate, the thought of being stronger and having to continue living experienced by the participants.This is illustrated in the following sentence quote:"I was the only one who was guarding at that time, kept not staying home first, wanted to take things, then until home on the phone, she said that the mother was critical when she was in the hospital again, she said there was no one, yes, I was surprised that before I didn't stay home, I still had a good chat.Gelo (sorry) mba how come I went home to mom.. Mum.. how come I

Behavioral response is seen from the actions or behavior of participants at the time of grieving
older son is also not allowed to sell his father's motorcycle" (P3.,I.36.P)The

physiological response is seen 735| Grief
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Table 1 . Theme Results In Depth interview Response to Grieving Family Members Left Behind by Their Families Due to Covid-19 in Semarang Regency
Ahmad Riyadi 2 Umi Margi Rahayu 3 Annisa Muliani Tangdilintin | 736 § Withdraw, § Wearing the belongings of the deceased, § Get closer to God, Divert 739| Grief Of Families Left Behind By Family Members Due To Covide-19 In Semarang Ahmad Riyadi 2 Umi Margi Rahayu 3 Annisa Muliani Tangdilintin